A JOURNEY UNIQUE TO MOTHERHOOD
The media often print shocking stories of mothers who kill themselves and /or their children. It is harrowing and unbearable to read, but often misses the factual evidence of why a mother reaches such psychological pain.
Postnatal Illness and postnatal depression can often be the cause of such horrific actions when no help or insufficient support has been offered to vulnerable mothers. These extreme cases can frighten mothers who are struggling with the less severe symptoms, but who still deserve the best physical and psychological care. Often mothers will not ask for help because of the shame attached to not coping in our society. The media offers images of celebrities able to give birth, be a size 0 in six weeks and out to work by day two! In reality there are many mums who struggle with the transition from womanhood to motherhood.
Several causes for postnatal illness are cited by The Royal College of Psychiatry such as an unsupportive partner during pregnancy, financial difficulties, and previous episodes of depression as well as bereavement. The guilt experienced with this taboo mental illness disrupts the normal process for seeking help. The symptoms can drag on for months as mothers hide their feelings in public. However, with the possible use of medication, counselling therapies and holistic treatment women do recover completely. Yet many mothers continue to struggle with the after effects of postnatal illness. It has great similarities with Post Traumatic Stress, as symptoms can reoccur during periods of anxiety, illness or if the mother attempts to do too much, namely trying to fulfil the fantasy of the Perfect Mother archetype.
By examining ways of managing periods of great stress, it is possible to develop coping strategies to maintain a more healthy balance for the mother, baby and family. These coping strategies are often unique to each mother, but have their roots in an individual’s likes and preferences for self-nurturing. The essential message is to get help and not suffer in silence.
For details of one day workshop on May 16 2009: Postnatal Illness A Journey Unique to Motherhood visit www.postnatalillnesscounselling.co.uk.
Charlotte Wilmer-Barbrook